slightly confused (attraction related 😕)

Creativity
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okay so like
i’m a lesbian. i’m only romantically + smegually attracted to women & non-men/feminine people. but like
i’m sort of attracted to guys..? in a way…? i couldn’t imagine and have no desire to be intimate with men and can only develop platonic emotional bonds with them but i think i may be aesthetically attracted to them?? kind of? i can look at certain guys and think “wow they’re attractive” or “wow that’s hot” but it’s like :woman_kneeling: that’s as far as it goes - is that aesthetic attraction or physical attraction? again i’m not smegually attracted to men by any means but i honestly don’t really know where physical attraction stands on the spectrum of attraction. so uh :woman_standing: what am i lol
idk man i’m just rambling

  • Beanie, she/they
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Wish I could help but I have the same problem lol.

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Yeah, that sounds like aesthetic attraction. If you wanted to, y’know, take them to bed, that would be sexual/physical attraction, but because you just like how they look you’re probably just aesthetically attracted to guys

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I experienced deep aesthetic attraction recently, and it’s like “wow they look so cool/interesting”, “I want their look” or “I can’t help but looking at them when my eyes are bored” (also noticing every little detail they change in their appearance and being able to remember each one of their outfits, but these are me things, and yeah Ik I’m weird but I said /deep/ attraction)
S*xual attraction was like “I wanna go intimate with them, but like rn” (and it was weird to me cause I’m greyace so this kinda things pretty much never happen)
Though I have trouble telling the difference between platonic and romantic attraction but yeah
So yours’s probably more on the aesthetic side

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^^ my friend told me sexual attraction and physical attraction arent the same thing, ik sexual attraction would be wanting to do things but from what i’ve heard physical attraction isn’t necessarily tied to that for everyone and can just be being physically attracted to someone’s appearance/body without wanting to be intimate
that said i may have the wrong interpretation but i feel like there’s a line somewhere between the two, i just can’t tell where it is [for me] :woman_standing:

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^ physical could be kinda an umbrella term that encompasses both s*xual and aesthetic attractions ?
Imma look that up cause it’s interesting
Edit : found it !
Physical Attraction is an umbrella term that encompasses many forms of attraction that exist on a physical level, as opposed to emotional attractions. Physical attraction could be broadly considered to be a desire to form a physical bond with a specific individual. An individual may choose to refer to their attraction as physical attraction if they want to specify that the attraction is happening on a physical level, but they either can’t or don’t want to be more specific than that. Forms of attraction in this umbrella include sexual attraction, sensual attraction, and aesthetic attraction.
This is from lgbtqia wiki (not the fandom one)
Edit 2 : got rid of non-working links and bold

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oh man this is confusing
i have a partner i probably don’t need to think about it too much lol :sob:

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So you have physical attraction with inside of it, s*xual, aesthetic and sensual attraction. So yours /is/ physical attraction anyway

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ohh okay
so now i can still label myself as lesbian even with some aesthetic (I think) attraction to guys right :woman_standing:

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^^^ that’s how I managed to get out of an attraction crisis.
Fun fact : the person I had aesthetic attraction for (this one I mentioned earlier) was also driving me crazy with additional attraction that I wasn’t able to tell from romantic attraction…
The fact I have a bf saved me from that and now I’m becoming friends with this person and this is fine
Fun fact 2 : I was shockingly embarrassed when I was seeing them or talking to them, at some point my friends thought I genuinely had a crush on them. This all went away when I clarified everything with myself and my feelings.

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^^ yeah Ig

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You can totally be a lesbian and experience aesthetic attraction to guys. I’m omniaesthetic (capable of experiencing aesthetic attraction to all genders, but more like to experience it for some genders than others), but I’m only romantically and sexually attracted to feminine aligned people, and I often describe myself as a lesbian.
Also, if you’re not sure if what you’re experiencing is actually aesthetic attraction or something different then you might want to look at this:

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Hiyo, I don’t really have anything else to add, I just want to say that I forgot about sensual attraction :sweat_smile: When I heard “physical” I thought you were talking about physical reactions, not things like touch or appreciation for people’s physicality

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I’m pretty much the same
As far as attractions go on all levels, women and feminine ppl are mainly who i like
But i’m also romantically and aesthetically attracted to men, but /not/ sexually attracted. (no offense,) in fact it kind of makes me want to throw up :cowboy_hat_face:(i have a bf)