I told my friend not to tell one of our other friends something and she did it anyway. It’s not really what she told them that’s the big deal, i forgot what it was, but more that I told her not to share it and she did it anyways. she doesn’t know i know she told our friend, our friend told me privately.
She’s also been calling my parents jerks, and I can admit they’re not perfect cough my coming out cough but I don’t want people calling them jerks in front of me whenever? so I told her, hey, don’t call them jerks in front of me, and she said she’s going to keep doing it anyway
I still /want/ to be friends with her but I also don’t want her to ignore my boundaries? how do i resolve this without being mean?
(Btw if it sounds like i’m being controlling pls tell me)
-Moth, they/them
Idk how to help but no it doesn’t sound like you’re being controlling at all
That sucks to deal with. I’d say that it’s not controlling to set boundaries! If she’s not respecting your boundaries then you have every right to be upset. Have you tried having a talk with her and explaining why it bothers you so much that she’s doing this?
That doesn’t sound like a good best friend. As someone who has had friend troubles, just dump them
^^No…
^Well… that’s the first step I’d say. If it really bothers you, you should talk to her about it. If she still ignores your boundaries after that though… you might need to just cut her off.
^ I agree. Do not be afraid to make your boundaries clear. : )